
Promoted to Senior Director. Expanded my team by four. Took on an additional $2M program. And I'm actually home for dinner. I was stuck in the weeds, pulled into every decision, with no space to think strategically. Working with Alli helped me trust my team, let go of control, and shift how I lead.

VP work done by 9:30 am for the first time in a long time. I also started a newsletter I'd been dreaming about for years. If you're looking for a program that helps you overcome everyday struggles while continuing to grow, I can't recommend this enough.

Promoted to the C-Suite drove & a 15% revenue increase without being “always on.” I felt responsible for holding everything together. Alli helped me set clear boundaries, protect what matters most, and start my days with intention instead of dread.

29% raise, 77% increase in event attendance, & my ideas are getting greenlit. Before Alli, I was buried in the weeds, saying yes to everything. She helped me shift into true leadership, build systems I trust, and pitch my ideas with confidence.

I used to practice 'secret self-care.' Now I model it openly as part of my team culture. I came to Alli wanting to be more intentional about how I showed up day to day. What I didn't expect was giving myself permission to make my wellbeing visible. Now, blocking thinking time or stepping away for a lunchtime yoga class isn't a guilty secret. It's how I lead.
I almost didn't sign up. For years, I defined my value by being the "backbone" of my team, the person who did it all and solved it all. The idea that anything could actually change felt unrealistic, especially as recent shifts on our team pulled me even deeper into admin-level execution work. Last month, I came back from PTO feeling sick to my stomach about the week ahead. My instinct was to get out the door and put my head down. Instead, I did a breathing exercise, put on some music, and went through a familiar stretch routine from barre. I drove to work a little late, but in the right headspace. Within an hour, I'd declined a meeting I would have sat in for the last three years. My boss's response to me stepping aside? "Your instincts were right." The hardest part was believing anything could change. It did.
From paralyzed to confident action on one of the hardest decisions of my career. I was facing a high-stakes, emotionally complex situation and didn't know how to move forward. Alli gave me the clarity and steadiness to make the call — and own it.
First big promotion & managing multiple cross-functional projects without burning out. Alli created space where I felt both supported and challenged, like I could actually stretch into the next level without falling apart. The growth stuck.
Alli pushed me to see my own experience through a completely different lens, and I walked away with insights I'm still using. Alli is one of the most intentional people I've encountered. If you have the chance to connect with her, take it.

You have the title, the salary, and a quiet feeling that this isn't what you worked this hard for.
You're good at your job and your job has consumed your life.
Work follows you home, into dinner, into the morning before you've said a word to anyone.
You've tried the tips. The time blocks. The boundaries. None of it stuck.
You do (or redo) others’ work because it’s faster, even though it keeps them dependent and keeps you stuck in the weeds.
You're tired of telling yourself it'll get better after this quarter.
You have the title, the salary, and a quiet feeling that this isn't what you worked this hard for.
You're good at your job and your job has consumed your life.
Work follows you home, into dinner, into the morning before you've said a word to anyone.
You've tried the tips. The time blocks. The boundaries. None of it stuck.
You do (or redo) others’ work because it’s faster, even though it keeps them dependent and keeps you stuck in the weeds
You're tired of telling yourself it'll get better after this quarter.

Why you're stuck in Chief Everything Officer mode
The pattern that's keeping you in execution mode, and why working harder makes it worse, not better.

The 4 R's Framework
The exact process senior women leaders use to stop doing everyone's job and start leading at the level their title actually requires.

Your first move
One concrete thing to do differently starting tomorrow to get you out of being the Chief Everything Officer. Not a 90-day overhaul. This week.
This isn't a productivity masterclass. It's about changing how you lead, because that's what changes everything else.


I was a Managing Director by 30. 86% raise in three years, the highest-paid employee in the company after the CEO. I led 7-figure programs, spoke on keynote stages, and partnered with Disney, ESPN, Google, Hasbro, PayPal, Subaru, and more. By every external measure, I was winning.
I was also waking up at 2am, clockwork panic. Working through every weekend. A friend once joked to my husband, on a chairlift at a ski trip I wasn't on, that I was a figment of his imagination. She wasn't wrong.
I had made myself entirely available to my job and entirely unavailable for everything else. I told myself the pace was temporary. It wasn't. It compounded until I changed how I led.
Eventually, I got 20+ hours a week back, built a team with real accountability, and had a life outside of work while still growing revenue 49% year over year. The work I do with women directors and above is the same work I had to do on myself.
~ ALLI MURPHY
~ ALLI MURPHY
Still the last stop on every decision.
Still doing work that shouldn't be yours.
Still telling yourself it'll settle down after this quarter.
Your career is 12 months further from the level you're capable of.
Your body is 12 months more depleted.
Your relationships are 12 months more distant.

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